How did you cause your child’s autism?
This is TOTALLY your fault.
Were you were too fat when you were pregnant? Did you take antidepressants at all in the year before you got pregnant with your child? Did you get pregnant too soon after having your autistic child’s sibling? Did you eat tuna while you were pregnant? Did you have a boy? Did you have your baby early or late? Did you vaccinate your child? Were those vaccines full of dead babies? Did you DARE not breastfeed? Did you breastfeed? Do you live close to a freeway? Did you use plastic bottles when you fed your child? Did you ever let your child watch TV? Did you or your child ever consume anything that had high fructose corn syrup in it?
Oh, and your child is STILL autistic? Why haven’t you cured him yet? Jenny McCarthy cured her son, and she’s a porn star…how come you haven’t cured your kid yet? Haven’t you heard about ALL of the others who cured their kids autism? You’re just not trying hard enough.
Because that’s what Autism Awareness is about! Guilt!
Sometimes, it feels like autism awareness is ONLY about finding a cause so we can find a cure. This does more to harm autism acceptance, especially for parents of children with autism, myself included. I worked hard to find out what caused my son’s autism because I wanted to cure him. I wasted time I could have just spent accepting him for who he is.
Yes, it would be nice to find out what causes autism. And I believe that we need to fund studies to get to that point. But the studies coming out lately?! Really? Who’s getting paid millions of dollars for those? Right now, the population of llamas is higher than it has ever been before (I made that up). So is the population of people with autism. Autism is caused by llamas! Someone pay me seven figures for that!
Autism Awareness needs to be about our kids, it needs to be about adults with autism who are happy with their autism. It’s about people with autism being treated equally. It needs to be about there being easier access to services, to respite, to better educational opportunities, to healthcare. And yet, here we are.